If your friend is not opening up to you and isn’t open to seeking help from someone, you have a decision to make. Are you concerned enough that you need to tell someone else about it? If so – who?
- Is there someone else who can help you with this problem – your own parent or family member? A trusted counsellor or teacher? Sometimes we need another opinion to know what to do.
- Would your parent, family member, counsellor or teacher go with you to talk to your friend?
- Does your friend have a parent or family member you would feel comfortable talking to?
- Would it help to put your concern in writing for them to read?
Even if you think the problem is a secret, you may need to share it with someone who can help. Most problems don’t go away by themselves and secrets have a way of coming out.
You should seek help with your friend if they report the following:
- Thoughts of suicide, hurting others or self-harming behaviors. Seek emergency help immediately.
- Worrying feelings as a constant part of their everyday
- Trouble sleeping a lot of the time
- Frequent melt downs, temper tantrums or are acting out aggressively to others
- Having more trouble with feelings than before